Monthly Archives: February 2008

Retreating is advancing

I’ve just returned from a wonderful week of retreat.  The bad news is that I haven’t blogged for over two weeks– a blogger sin!  After retreat I took a detour to New Jersey because my sister has been diagnosed with cancer, and that has made focus quite difficult. The good news, however is that going on retreat each year is a treasured perk of religious life, and again this year the time of reflection led me to my center where God is. Clarities come in the quiet there.  Ahhhh!

Early in religious formation, making a retreat sounded more like a jail sentence than a perk. Not to talk for a week seemed impossible.  However, as I matured in my sense of self, the opportunity for reflection became precious.  A significant moment in that shift came when I discovered Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s little book, Gift from the Sea: An Answer to the Conflicts in Our Lives. I remember sitting on a beautiful rolling hill at Immaculata College and devouring the book. She wrote these pages during a brief vacation at the seashore where she wanted to examine the patterns of her life. However, her search for meaning in her life has spoken powerfully to other seekers for years. If you haven’t read the book, I highly recommend it.  The insight that a woman needs solitude to find the essence of her life was Anne’s ”gift” to me, a gift that has grown deeper with each year’s retreat.

 There is no way we can advance without retreating!

Meet Sister Pat

Sister Pat Aseltyne

Casa Hope,” in Houston, Texas, is a haven for children in crisis through abuse, neglect or life-threatening illnesses such as AIDS.

Patricia (Helen Mary) Aseltyne, IHM, has ministered at this licensed foster care and adoption agency for more than 12 years. She was instrumental in establishing Casa Hope’s Hospice House and has been a house parent for Casa’s family-based homes. Sister Pat has also served as caregiver to infants with AIDS and foster mother to Baby Rosa, who died of the disease at age 3.

“So many of Casa’s families are touched by AIDS with its stigma and isolation,” Sister Pat notes. “Part of my role has been to let the children and families know they’re not alone, either by caring for a child in need or by helping with little things to make a family more comfortable, such as a bus pass or paying a utility bill.”

Sister Pat currently provides aftercare/outreach when children are discharged from Casa and return to their families.

“Within a month of a child’s discharge, I meet with the family to see how things are going,” she says. “I try to affirm the parents for the positive things they’re doing, but my priority at all times is to be sure the child is safe.

“The outreach program has been extremely successful. Many parents ask that it be extended beyond the six-month mandatory visit schedule,” she asserts.

Sister Pat’s outreach efforts have also included working with victims of Hurricane Katrina who fled to Houston from New Orleans.

“I’m still working with a family that’s in a real ‘catch-22,’” she notes. “The grandparents are caring for seven children and are still in desperate need of social services. They can’t access those services because no one in the family has any identification. We’re trying to help them with the tangle of paperwork and legal demands.”

Although the caseload continues to grow, Sister Pat says that everyone involved with Casa Hope is intent on helping those who call on them. “It’s a privilege,” she says simply.

Controversial Meadows

The above picture of the IHM Motherhouse through a lacey screen of black-eyed susans looks quite lovely, doesn’t it.  The black-eyed susans are part of the meadows we have developed on our property. You probably couldn’t imagine what controversy they have stirred. The meadows are just one of the ways we have “put our money where our mouth is” in caring for the earth. Our grounds used to be lovely expanses of well-groomed grass.  However well-groomed lawn actually inhibits the health of the land. The meadows provide a habitat for numerous diverse species, conserve the moisture in the earth and diminish our need for fossil fuel to run lawn mowers. We all support this way of caring for the earth, and some of us actually think they’re beautiful.  Though many of our neighbors are displeased that our property, in their view, looks unkempt, we just have to put our money where our mouth is.

        “For where your treasure is,
         there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:21